How To Survive A Terrible Relationship Break-up

You are so in love with your Boyfriend, and so as he to you. Everyday is like roses every time you’re in each others arms, nothing else matter. You can’t even last a day without his sight, without his text, without knowing each others situation. It’s like you are exactly meant for each other that you want nothing but him/her. You swear to each other, that you will be forever until the end of time. You are even talking about your marriage. But in a split second, without even knowing what your fault is, he’s trying to literally push you away, and stop from texting like what he used to do, he lies about what he’s doing, He get so mean to you, only to know that there's a new girl. Tragic indeed, eh? , You tried your best to survive the relationship but still he wants a break-up. It would totally be more hurtful than humiliating in the girl’s part but, although, things are easier said than done, what you should do is move on and stop wallowing in the pain.  

Here are some proven-based-on-experience tips on how to survive and move on from a terrible relationship break-up.


1. Make yourself busy. There is nothing more productive than to make you busy than wallowing in pain and crying over spilt milk. This will make your mind occupied and your body in action that you won’t have time to entertain your idiot ex-boyfriend’s thought.

2. Surround yourself with positive people. Being with friends who care and who understand your situation will help. They could advise you things that would enlighten your mind and make you laugh.

3. Improve your self/looks. One way of diverting your attention is by improving yourself/looks. You can get a new haircut, tan, manicure/pedicure, you can work-out your size and have some sexy cuts, and you can also meet new friends so as to widen your world. Improving yourself/looks will not only give you self-esteem but could be an opportunity for a new relationship. And also, there is no sweetest revenge but making him see that losing him is not you’re lost.

4. Pray for his enlightenment and happiness. Yes, you read it right. Believe me that there is nothing more rewarding but praying for your enemy. Grudges earn negative vibes, and Humility earns positive impact in your life. SO what would you choose? A full of hatred life or a quiet and peaceful one?

5. Smile. The only way to earn friends, positive outlook, and show a happy disposition in your life is to smile more often. Although it is inevitable to cry at the first two weeks of the break-up, one should learn how to give deadlines in mourning and depression.

6. Make use of your sadness. When a person is undergoing a hurtful break-up, they tend to be overly emotional. Some people talk it out to their close friends just to ease the feeling. Some, writes all the heartache down. There are many forms of writing it, it could be for stories or novels, song lyrics, poems, and love quotes. You can check out Avril Lavigne’s songs and Taylor Swift’s songs and find out how they take advantage of their sad relationship experience. The good thing about writing it while you are in your most depressed mood is that, ideas tends to flow freely when you are in such emotion. You can post it online or try to publish it in the books. But posting it online would be easier if you are not sure about the whereabouts of publishing yet. You can be of help too to others suffering like yours.

7. Don’t ditch on him. Its okay to tell what exactly happened with your friends who know you both, but do not ever try to tell bad things on his back. Yes, you are the oppressed party, but, it doesn’t give you the right to talk ill about him. He was once a part of your life and you know you once loved and shared good moments with him.

8. Be civil. It is okay to be bitter for the first two weeks but after that “mourning episodes”, refrain from being overly dramatic by reacting too much when seeing him, especially when you work on the same company, or when you guys share the same school, or worse, you are classmates. Try to be civil, show him that you are sports enough to accept defeat. Even if he’s the wrong person in the story.

9. Show him it’s not the end of your world without him. Right! If he’s happy with his new relationship, you can do it too. You do not necessarily have to get yourself a new boyfriend by doing this. Try to see the bright side of the world and enjoy your life, that’s it.

10. Eat, Shop,Love and Pray. Which means, be healthy, indulge yourself and get a new dress,learn to love everyone and thank god to all the blessings you are endowed with.

11. Relax. If you have the means, take a relaxing vacation with some friends or you can go alone too. It is proven that nature brings positive effect in our body as it calms our mind and freshen up our system. You can try to go to beach or go mountain hiking (with friends of course). 12. Forgive and Forget. It is true that forgiving is forgetting, so, as much as possible, try to forgive the person who has hurt you.

If you did everything and yet, nothing has changed…you can try the 13th and the last part of my advice…



13. Punch him on the face. Most often that not, giving him an unforgettable black-eye can make it all quits. This will also be a good threat to never messed up with you anymore or to any other girls again.